Learning Dearest As Well As Logic

Today, I’m going to tell you lot almost the fourth dimension I accidentally attended a parenting seminar.  If you’re wondering why this is a big deal, well…  I’m 24 with no husband, no kids, in addition to no plans to receive got kids until I'm married.  AKA No argue whatsoever to move to a ii hr parenting seminar.  

So, why was I there?  It’s totally Shelli’s fault.  She tweeted me a few weeks agone to inquire what I was doing on September 18^th.  TU was hosting a costless Love in addition to Logic Parent-Teacher Institute with physician Charles Fay.  I’ve never read the Love in addition to Logic book, but I could definitely exercise some assistance with my classroom administration skills.  Shelli ended upward non existence able to move with me due to Back to School Night, in addition to then I ended upward going yesteryear myself.

physician Charles Fay was an absolutely hilarious in addition to riveting speaker.  I don't intend nosotros ever quite quit laughing the entire evening.  He started the eventide yesteryear trying to approximate what his audience was trying to leave of absence of the evening.  Raise your mitt if you lot are the nurture of an infant.  Raise your mitt if you lot are the nurture of a toddler.  Raise your mitt if you lot are the nurture of an unproblematic schoolhouse child.  Raise your mitt if you lot are the nurture of a middle schoolhouse child.  Raise your mitt if your kid is inward high school.  Raise your mitt if your children receive got grown upward in addition to moved out of the house.  Raise your mitt if your children receive got grown up, moved out of the house, in addition to moved dorsum inward the house.  Raise your mitt if you’re hither this night because your wife acts similar a child.  Raise your mitt if you lot are both raising your children in addition to helping to accept attention of your ain parents. 

At this point, I’m starting to experience a tad chip awkward.  Everybody else has been raising their hands in addition to looking some at each with agreement glances.  Not me.  I’m trying to avoid optic contact with those some me out of fright that they volition inquire me what I intend I’m doing here.  I evidently don’t belong.  EVENTUALLY, the speaker gets some to quest if anyone is at that topographic point because they are an educator.  Influenza A virus subtype H5N1 handful of hands move up, but you lot tin give notice tell that we’re definitely inward the minority. 

To endure honest, 97.24% of the presentation was focused on parenting in addition to non teaching.  But, it was definitely non a wasted evening.  I walked away with lots of things to intend almost in addition to apply to my classroom. 

Major Takeaways:

I permit a select few students describe me into arguments.  This reduces my effectiveness.  I don’t receive got to explicate myself in addition to my actions to my students.  Also, I demand to permit my kids struggle more.  I demand to permit them experience the consequences of their lack of effort.  I deserve to experience respected inward my classroom.  And, my students should endure working harder than me. 

Here’s my notes.  I bolded the statements that I experience I tin give notice definitely apply to my classroom.  Now, I’m intrigued in addition to desire to know to a greater extent than almost what the Love in addition to Logic Program genuinely looks similar inward the classroom.  Now, I but demand to uncovering some fourth dimension to read again!  :)  

When dealing with children, ever inquire yourself, “Who is the adult inward the room?”

iii Pieces of Advice

1. Stop fighting with your children.
2. Take the liberate energy you lot receive got been spending fighting with your children in addition to pour it into edifice their character.  Teach them patience.  Teach them respect.  Teach them how to wait.  Teach them to say “Please” in addition to “Thank you.” 
3. Love your children.

Ask yourself – what is at the pump of how our kids exercise inward life?  The grades on their transcript or their character? 

Q: What tin give notice I exercise to assistance my kid inward school?
A: Give them chores.  No reminders.  No pay.  Just chores.

When your children inquire for things:
“I volition endure to a greater extent than than happy to exercise XYZ equally long equally I experience respected in addition to your chores are done.”

When nosotros focus on grapheme instead of grades, nosotros receive got guaranteed success.

Allow yourself to dearest your kids but equally they are correct now.

Allow kids to experience consequences of their lack of effort.

Want to confuse a misbehaving kid? Smile at them!

If a kid tin give notice fighting with you, volition they ever come upward to observe you?

If a kid tin give notice fighting with you, are you lot nevertheless the authorization figure?

When talking to a misbehaving kid, endure encephalon dead.  Don’t intend almost the words coming out of the kids’ mouth.

It’s proficient for kids to listen the give-and-take NO.

The to a greater extent than words I exercise with an angry, arguing kid, the less effective I become. 

You exercise non receive got a solemn obligation to brand feel to your kid.

ONE THING TO FOCUS ON: Don’t learn pulled into arguments.

The most powerful consequences come upward similar a bolt of lightning wrapped inward empathy. 

Resisting current of air makes trees grow stronger roots.

We’ve got to dearest our kids plenty to permit them struggle.

Struggle produces growth.

It’s okay if your kids intend you’re a wimp!  They’ll uncovering out the truth later. 

Chores

• As presently equally your kids tin give notice walk, they should endure doing chores with you. 
• Do chores together with kids.  Do chores together with teenagers.
• Kids should come across us doing things with dandy enthusiasm.
• Your motto with chores should be: “I assistance equally long equally you’re working harder than me.”
• Chores are an chance for children to experience existence helpful in addition to existence a role of something. 
• If you lot nag in addition to remind kids to exercise their chores, who is genuinely doing the chore? You are!
• The to a greater extent than reminders nosotros give our kids, the to a greater extent than reminders our kids volition come upward to need.

Mistakes are the route to wisdom.

If you lot desire an particular child/family, don’t receive got a television set inward your home.

Empathy THEN consequences.

When you lot don’t know what to do, it’s okay to delay the consequence. 

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