A Close Tardy Reflection On Twitter Math Camp, The Mtbos, In Addition To Online Dating
I've position off writing most my TMC experience because, honestly, it was overwhelming. And, when I tell overwhelming, I hateful it inward the best possible way. If you lot desire recaps of diverse TMC sessions, you lot should likely await elsewhere. This postal service is going to hold upwardly less informative as well as to a greater extent than on the reflective side. And past times reflective, I hateful completely random!
I'm going to compare Twitter Math Camp as well as the MTBoS to online dating. I truly made this comparing at to the lowest degree twice during the 4 days of TMC. And, each time, I only got weird looks. Apparently, the bulk of TMCers don't direct keep online dating experience. After seeing the results of Michael Pershan's survey, this made a petty to a greater extent than sense.
The bulk of TMC participants are over 30. With the hateful as well as median ages inward the mid to upper thirties, I approximate it makes sense that most would direct keep experienced dating without the influence of the Internet.
I know that at historic catamenia 24 I'm young. But, inward the TMC world, I'm plainly a baby.
Honestly, I wishing I didn't direct keep online dating experience. I fully intended on coming together a guy inward college as well as marrying correct afterwards graduation. That did non happen. Instead, I graduated as well as moved to a town inward the middle of nowhere. I wasn't truly thinking most the prospects of finding someone to appointment inward a town without a Wal-Mart or fifty-fifty a stoplight when I accepted this chore offer. But, what's done is done. And, I direct keep to trust that this is all business office of God's conception for my life.
After a twelvemonth of living inward a tiny town as well as null dates during that year, I decided to enterprise into the online dating world. [To my sis who may or may non hold upwardly reading this because she tends to skim my weblog posts because she finds them "boring", I apologize for never telling you lot that I tried online dating. I scream back the crazy stories that resulted from this experience are soundless funny. I'll direct keep to portion them alongside you lot sometime!] Entering the online dating basis is truly kinda similar to becoming business office of the #MTBoS.
1. You direct keep to pass hours/days/weeks coming upwardly alongside the perfect, clever username. This volition hold upwardly the start thing people jurist you lot on. In the example of the #MTBoS, the to a greater extent than math-y your username is the better. In the example of online dating, the contrary is likely true. Once you lot settle on a username, there's a 97.2% jeopardy that you'll hold upwardly told that this username is already taken. And, you lot direct keep to laid about the procedure all over again.
Side note: what does it tell most me that I lately started trying to scream support a cool mathematical username to role if I ever determine to endeavour online dating again? I mean, nosotros all know that I already direct keep the best mathematical username inward the basis alongside mathequalslove. But, I'd kinda prefer to tell a guy inward mortal that I pass a ridiculous amount of my life blogging most teaching math instead of letting him uncovering it earlier he ever meets me. He needs to consider the normal side of me earlier he sees the "I beloved teaching math alongside all my being" side of me. Oh wait. That is the normal side of me. I tin hash out things other than teaching math, though. :) So, I'll demand a novel username. Current contenders: lessthanthree, lovejesusandmath, ratioofcircumferencetodiameter, or myfavnumberispi. Of course, straightaway I can't role whatsoever of these because they'll all atomic number 82 dorsum to this weblog post. Bummer...
2. You larn to determine what people see/know most you. With online dating, this way carefully selecting photos for your profile that solely capture you lot at the perfect angle or on your best side. When writing your profile description, you lot tin conveniently larn out out the fact that you lot alive inward your parents' basement as well as haven't seen sunlight inward 7 years. Or, equally nosotros all know, you lot tin claim to hold upwardly a French model.
There was a lot of verbalize at TMC most feeling inadequate. And, it was mentioned that if you lot start comparing yourself as well as your teaching to what you lot read most on the blogs of others, you lot volition experience inadequate. The activities as well as lessons that most people write most on their blogs are the rare perfect days or nearly perfect days inward their classrooms. Most people don't write most the lessons that bombed. They don't write most the solar daytime they gave their students tiresome notes or a mind-numbing worksheet. Blogs tend to hold upwardly highlight reels. And, if you lot start to compare the ups as well as downs that are a reality of existence a classroom instructor alongside a highlight reel of solely the best lessons of some other teacher, you lot volition autumn brusk inward comparison.
If you've read my weblog for whatsoever length of time, you lot know that I tend to weblog most everything nether the sun. The lessons that went well. The lessons that didn't larn then well. If I solely shared super-polished lessons, this weblog wouldn't exist. Some inward the blogosphere direct keep made comments most how they aren't sure how I became a "superstar blogger" inward such a brusk amount of time. First, I don't thought myself equally a superstar. I'm only a normal, everyday instructor who has a style to over-share alongside the world. And, for some crazy reason, people read it. Case inward point: you lot are currently reading a weblog postal service most my online dating experiences. Someday I powerfulness regret putting all this out at that topographic point on the Internet for the entire basis to read... I strive for honesty inward my blogging. I desire my weblog to hold upwardly an accurate reflection of my teaching career--the skilful as well as the bad. Others strive to showcase lessons that went well. And, soundless others downplay their achievements through their blogs. They claim that they direct keep naught worthy of sharing when they clearly do.
3. Other people volition jurist you lot for your participation. Have you lot ever tried to depict the #MTBoS to someone who only didn't larn it? Yeah, I've seen others heighten their eyebrows inward answer to my gushing most how excited I was for Twitter Math Camp. I direct keep to remind myself that this is okay. Not everyone needs the #MTBoS similar I do. Not everyone teaches inward a math subdivision of 2 where they experience isolated as well as starved for collaboration. Then, at that topographic point are the looks you lot larn when you lot acknowledge to trying online dating. As my students then nicely position it, online dating qualifies you lot equally "desperate." There are those who larn it. Those who direct keep tried it out themselves or who know of someone else who has had a positive experience. And, at that topographic point are those who volition never larn it. My parents powerfulness autumn inward that minute category. I'm pretty sure they direct keep watched besides many Dateline specials on television set most the dangers that lurk online.
Though, i of my Algebra 2 classes in conclusion twelvemonth was all for me doing online dating. A few students got together i solar daytime afterwards nosotros did Dan Meyer's Graphing Stories as well as wrote out an online dating profile for me. "I similar taking long walks along the beach as well as graphing them. I beloved reciting the quadratic formula. And, I relish reading math books past times a roaring fire." If that won't grab me the perfect man, I'm non sure what will! ;)
4. Statistics affair as well as don't affair at the same time. There's naught to a greater extent than frustrating than seeing that 50 people direct keep viewed your online dating profile but haven't sent you lot a message. But, I speak from experience when I tell lineament > quantity. The messages that you lot exercise have tin crusade you lot to laid about doubting the effectiveness of uncomplicated schoolhouse literacy instruction. I tried to hold upwardly rattling specific inward my dating profile most what characteristics I was looking for inward a potential relationship. If a guy was to read my entire profile, he would non demand to shipping a "how exercise you lot experience most friends alongside benefits?" message.
It was difficult, but I restrained myself from sending dorsum messages similar this:
Dear Random Guy,
I truly appreciated the long, semi-creepy message you lot sent me maxim that you lot felt that nosotros were soul mates based on the remarkable number of similarities nosotros share. It is cool that nosotros are both vegetarians. I'm a math teacher. You are going to schoolhouse to hold upwardly a history teacher. I neglect to see, however, how these 2 facts brand us destined to pass the residue of our lives together. Additionally, the fact that you lot pass 2-3 hours meditating each solar daytime is overnice to know, but it does non negate the fact that nosotros exercise non portion the same faith.
Not your soul mate,
Sarah
With blogging as well as tweeting, it's slowly to larn caught upwardly inward how many retweets you lot larn or how many pageviews your weblog receives. Building a community within the #MTBoS takes time. I would much rather direct keep a few readers who pick out the fourth dimension to larn out thoughtful comments instead of a bunch of readers who read but never comment. I follow a bunch of people on twitter, but if you lot looked at my tweets you lot would consider that I tend to communicate alongside the same modest group. These tweeps larn me. They're ever at that topographic point for me. And, it was them that I was most excited most coming together at TMC.
5. Things tin larn awkward when you lot consider inward person, but awesome, life-changing things tin soundless result.
Have you lot ever tried to direct keep a conversation alongside someone inward mortal who you've solely ever communicated alongside through the written discussion before? Yeah, that's awkward. I attribute the awkwardness to the fact that you lot experience similar you lot already know the mortal as well as know naught most the mortal at the same time. I tend to hold upwardly a wordy person, then the amount of data that a guy could know most me past times the fourth dimension nosotros finally consider inward mortal is substantial. Maybe this is why all the human relationship articles advise taking your human relationship to the in-person degree ASAP.
I experience similar going out on a appointment alongside someone you've been talking to online is similar trying to boundary to the conversations you lot would ordinarily occur on dates 4, 5, or six alongside all the added necessary awkwardness of dates 1, 2, as well as 3.
I scream back that the nature of the MTBoS compounds the potential for awkwardness at an trial similar TMC. In the MTBoS, I'm non only communicating my ideas alongside a handful of teachers. No, at that topographic point are thousands upon thousands of people reading what I write. But, I truly direct keep no way of knowing who reads what. Sure, I know when people larn out comments that they direct keep read a sure post. I read a lots of weblog posts without leaving comments, as well as I know most people exercise the same. When I consider somebody, volition they know that I read their blog? Will they assume that I read their blog? Should they?
At TMC, I would uncovering myself sharing something alongside someone that I knew had previously been shared on my blog. Do I assume this mortal has read the post? Do I assume he/she hasn't read it? Do I ask? I sure enough didn't desire to waste matter precious fourth dimension sharing something they've already read about. I had to express joy when i of my tweeps told me at TMC14 that they weren't quite sure what to verbalize to me most the start fourth dimension nosotros met. After all, she felt similar she already knew everything at that topographic point was to know most me thank you lot to reading my blog. Oops. There's that over-sharing again.
Honestly, I scream back my introverted personality made things most awkward for me at TMC. As much equally I wanted to consider all of my tweeps, I only couldn't brand myself larn upwardly as well as innovate myself to these people. I am non an anti-social mortal at all. I beloved to verbalize to people. I beloved to hang out. I only struggle alongside existence the mortal to initiate the conversation. This is something I'm currently working on inward my life, but it's definitely a process. (And, God has sure enough been giving me enough of opportunities to initiate awkward conversations of late!)
So, I was the daughter standing inward the hotel vestibule 3 feet away from Dan Meyer who couldn't convey herself to say, "Hey Dan, I'm Sarah. I started reading your weblog when I was a junior inward high school. And, you're i of the principal reasons I weblog as well as tweet today. Thank you!"
Picture proof that I met Dan Meyer: :)
Thankfully, Dan doesn't direct keep the same issues alongside starting conversations alongside random people whose blogs he reads equally I do. And, nosotros ended upwardly having a overnice conversation afterwards he introduced himself to me. "You're Sarah Hagan, right?" "That's me." "Hi, I'm Dan." If at that topographic point was anybody at #TMC14 who shouldn't direct keep had to innovate himself, it was Dan. #Danweallloveyouandknowwhoyouare Now why would I scream back that was such a hard thing to do? We ended upwardly talking most what makes for a skilful weblog post, the crazy things that tin hand off equally a outcome of blogging, as well as the major influence that blogging has had on my life equally a novel teacher. Then, the side past times side day, Dan referenced our conversation during his keynote address. Ummmmmmmmmmm at that topographic point are 150-170 math instructor bloggers inward the room as well as you lot determine to verbalize most me?!? That's cool. Well, truly it's to a greater extent than than cool. However, I institute that when I tried to explicate how cool it was to others non inward the #MTBoS, they only didn't understand.
And, this was only i awesome conversation of many that happened during the 4 days of TMC. I got to consider then many people whose blogs I've been reading since high schoolhouse as well as college. Plus, I was able to connect alongside a lot of my interactive notebook friends as well as portion awesome ideas. And, I met novel people as well as institute novel blogs to read, too.
So, am I thankful that I went to Twitter Math Camp 2014? Yes, yes. A 1000000 times yes! It was the most exciting, exhilarating, useful professional person evolution I've ever experienced. I've got to a greater extent than to write/share/reflect on, but this is a start. TMC was inward July. It's almost Oct . I'm only a few months behind... :)
I'm going to compare Twitter Math Camp as well as the MTBoS to online dating. I truly made this comparing at to the lowest degree twice during the 4 days of TMC. And, each time, I only got weird looks. Apparently, the bulk of TMCers don't direct keep online dating experience. After seeing the results of Michael Pershan's survey, this made a petty to a greater extent than sense.
The bulk of TMC participants are over 30. With the hateful as well as median ages inward the mid to upper thirties, I approximate it makes sense that most would direct keep experienced dating without the influence of the Internet.
I know that at historic catamenia 24 I'm young. But, inward the TMC world, I'm plainly a baby.
Honestly, I wishing I didn't direct keep online dating experience. I fully intended on coming together a guy inward college as well as marrying correct afterwards graduation. That did non happen. Instead, I graduated as well as moved to a town inward the middle of nowhere. I wasn't truly thinking most the prospects of finding someone to appointment inward a town without a Wal-Mart or fifty-fifty a stoplight when I accepted this chore offer. But, what's done is done. And, I direct keep to trust that this is all business office of God's conception for my life.
After a twelvemonth of living inward a tiny town as well as null dates during that year, I decided to enterprise into the online dating world. [To my sis who may or may non hold upwardly reading this because she tends to skim my weblog posts because she finds them "boring", I apologize for never telling you lot that I tried online dating. I scream back the crazy stories that resulted from this experience are soundless funny. I'll direct keep to portion them alongside you lot sometime!] Entering the online dating basis is truly kinda similar to becoming business office of the #MTBoS.
Ways Online Dating as well as the #MTBoS are the Same
Side note: what does it tell most me that I lately started trying to scream support a cool mathematical username to role if I ever determine to endeavour online dating again? I mean, nosotros all know that I already direct keep the best mathematical username inward the basis alongside mathequalslove. But, I'd kinda prefer to tell a guy inward mortal that I pass a ridiculous amount of my life blogging most teaching math instead of letting him uncovering it earlier he ever meets me. He needs to consider the normal side of me earlier he sees the "I beloved teaching math alongside all my being" side of me. Oh wait. That is the normal side of me. I tin hash out things other than teaching math, though. :) So, I'll demand a novel username. Current contenders: lessthanthree, lovejesusandmath, ratioofcircumferencetodiameter, or myfavnumberispi. Of course, straightaway I can't role whatsoever of these because they'll all atomic number 82 dorsum to this weblog post. Bummer...
2. You larn to determine what people see/know most you. With online dating, this way carefully selecting photos for your profile that solely capture you lot at the perfect angle or on your best side. When writing your profile description, you lot tin conveniently larn out out the fact that you lot alive inward your parents' basement as well as haven't seen sunlight inward 7 years. Or, equally nosotros all know, you lot tin claim to hold upwardly a French model.
There was a lot of verbalize at TMC most feeling inadequate. And, it was mentioned that if you lot start comparing yourself as well as your teaching to what you lot read most on the blogs of others, you lot volition experience inadequate. The activities as well as lessons that most people write most on their blogs are the rare perfect days or nearly perfect days inward their classrooms. Most people don't write most the lessons that bombed. They don't write most the solar daytime they gave their students tiresome notes or a mind-numbing worksheet. Blogs tend to hold upwardly highlight reels. And, if you lot start to compare the ups as well as downs that are a reality of existence a classroom instructor alongside a highlight reel of solely the best lessons of some other teacher, you lot volition autumn brusk inward comparison.
If you've read my weblog for whatsoever length of time, you lot know that I tend to weblog most everything nether the sun. The lessons that went well. The lessons that didn't larn then well. If I solely shared super-polished lessons, this weblog wouldn't exist. Some inward the blogosphere direct keep made comments most how they aren't sure how I became a "superstar blogger" inward such a brusk amount of time. First, I don't thought myself equally a superstar. I'm only a normal, everyday instructor who has a style to over-share alongside the world. And, for some crazy reason, people read it. Case inward point: you lot are currently reading a weblog postal service most my online dating experiences. Someday I powerfulness regret putting all this out at that topographic point on the Internet for the entire basis to read... I strive for honesty inward my blogging. I desire my weblog to hold upwardly an accurate reflection of my teaching career--the skilful as well as the bad. Others strive to showcase lessons that went well. And, soundless others downplay their achievements through their blogs. They claim that they direct keep naught worthy of sharing when they clearly do.
3. Other people volition jurist you lot for your participation. Have you lot ever tried to depict the #MTBoS to someone who only didn't larn it? Yeah, I've seen others heighten their eyebrows inward answer to my gushing most how excited I was for Twitter Math Camp. I direct keep to remind myself that this is okay. Not everyone needs the #MTBoS similar I do. Not everyone teaches inward a math subdivision of 2 where they experience isolated as well as starved for collaboration. Then, at that topographic point are the looks you lot larn when you lot acknowledge to trying online dating. As my students then nicely position it, online dating qualifies you lot equally "desperate." There are those who larn it. Those who direct keep tried it out themselves or who know of someone else who has had a positive experience. And, at that topographic point are those who volition never larn it. My parents powerfulness autumn inward that minute category. I'm pretty sure they direct keep watched besides many Dateline specials on television set most the dangers that lurk online.
Though, i of my Algebra 2 classes in conclusion twelvemonth was all for me doing online dating. A few students got together i solar daytime afterwards nosotros did Dan Meyer's Graphing Stories as well as wrote out an online dating profile for me. "I similar taking long walks along the beach as well as graphing them. I beloved reciting the quadratic formula. And, I relish reading math books past times a roaring fire." If that won't grab me the perfect man, I'm non sure what will! ;)
4. Statistics affair as well as don't affair at the same time. There's naught to a greater extent than frustrating than seeing that 50 people direct keep viewed your online dating profile but haven't sent you lot a message. But, I speak from experience when I tell lineament > quantity. The messages that you lot exercise have tin crusade you lot to laid about doubting the effectiveness of uncomplicated schoolhouse literacy instruction. I tried to hold upwardly rattling specific inward my dating profile most what characteristics I was looking for inward a potential relationship. If a guy was to read my entire profile, he would non demand to shipping a "how exercise you lot experience most friends alongside benefits?" message.
It was difficult, but I restrained myself from sending dorsum messages similar this:
Dear Random Guy,
I truly appreciated the long, semi-creepy message you lot sent me maxim that you lot felt that nosotros were soul mates based on the remarkable number of similarities nosotros share. It is cool that nosotros are both vegetarians. I'm a math teacher. You are going to schoolhouse to hold upwardly a history teacher. I neglect to see, however, how these 2 facts brand us destined to pass the residue of our lives together. Additionally, the fact that you lot pass 2-3 hours meditating each solar daytime is overnice to know, but it does non negate the fact that nosotros exercise non portion the same faith.
Not your soul mate,
Sarah
With blogging as well as tweeting, it's slowly to larn caught upwardly inward how many retweets you lot larn or how many pageviews your weblog receives. Building a community within the #MTBoS takes time. I would much rather direct keep a few readers who pick out the fourth dimension to larn out thoughtful comments instead of a bunch of readers who read but never comment. I follow a bunch of people on twitter, but if you lot looked at my tweets you lot would consider that I tend to communicate alongside the same modest group. These tweeps larn me. They're ever at that topographic point for me. And, it was them that I was most excited most coming together at TMC.
5. Things tin larn awkward when you lot consider inward person, but awesome, life-changing things tin soundless result.
Have you lot ever tried to direct keep a conversation alongside someone inward mortal who you've solely ever communicated alongside through the written discussion before? Yeah, that's awkward. I attribute the awkwardness to the fact that you lot experience similar you lot already know the mortal as well as know naught most the mortal at the same time. I tend to hold upwardly a wordy person, then the amount of data that a guy could know most me past times the fourth dimension nosotros finally consider inward mortal is substantial. Maybe this is why all the human relationship articles advise taking your human relationship to the in-person degree ASAP.
I experience similar going out on a appointment alongside someone you've been talking to online is similar trying to boundary to the conversations you lot would ordinarily occur on dates 4, 5, or six alongside all the added necessary awkwardness of dates 1, 2, as well as 3.
I scream back that the nature of the MTBoS compounds the potential for awkwardness at an trial similar TMC. In the MTBoS, I'm non only communicating my ideas alongside a handful of teachers. No, at that topographic point are thousands upon thousands of people reading what I write. But, I truly direct keep no way of knowing who reads what. Sure, I know when people larn out comments that they direct keep read a sure post. I read a lots of weblog posts without leaving comments, as well as I know most people exercise the same. When I consider somebody, volition they know that I read their blog? Will they assume that I read their blog? Should they?
At TMC, I would uncovering myself sharing something alongside someone that I knew had previously been shared on my blog. Do I assume this mortal has read the post? Do I assume he/she hasn't read it? Do I ask? I sure enough didn't desire to waste matter precious fourth dimension sharing something they've already read about. I had to express joy when i of my tweeps told me at TMC14 that they weren't quite sure what to verbalize to me most the start fourth dimension nosotros met. After all, she felt similar she already knew everything at that topographic point was to know most me thank you lot to reading my blog. Oops. There's that over-sharing again.
Honestly, I scream back my introverted personality made things most awkward for me at TMC. As much equally I wanted to consider all of my tweeps, I only couldn't brand myself larn upwardly as well as innovate myself to these people. I am non an anti-social mortal at all. I beloved to verbalize to people. I beloved to hang out. I only struggle alongside existence the mortal to initiate the conversation. This is something I'm currently working on inward my life, but it's definitely a process. (And, God has sure enough been giving me enough of opportunities to initiate awkward conversations of late!)
So, I was the daughter standing inward the hotel vestibule 3 feet away from Dan Meyer who couldn't convey herself to say, "Hey Dan, I'm Sarah. I started reading your weblog when I was a junior inward high school. And, you're i of the principal reasons I weblog as well as tweet today. Thank you!"
Picture proof that I met Dan Meyer: :)
Thankfully, Dan doesn't direct keep the same issues alongside starting conversations alongside random people whose blogs he reads equally I do. And, nosotros ended upwardly having a overnice conversation afterwards he introduced himself to me. "You're Sarah Hagan, right?" "That's me." "Hi, I'm Dan." If at that topographic point was anybody at #TMC14 who shouldn't direct keep had to innovate himself, it was Dan. #Danweallloveyouandknowwhoyouare Now why would I scream back that was such a hard thing to do? We ended upwardly talking most what makes for a skilful weblog post, the crazy things that tin hand off equally a outcome of blogging, as well as the major influence that blogging has had on my life equally a novel teacher. Then, the side past times side day, Dan referenced our conversation during his keynote address. Ummmmmmmmmmm at that topographic point are 150-170 math instructor bloggers inward the room as well as you lot determine to verbalize most me?!? That's cool. Well, truly it's to a greater extent than than cool. However, I institute that when I tried to explicate how cool it was to others non inward the #MTBoS, they only didn't understand.
And, this was only i awesome conversation of many that happened during the 4 days of TMC. I got to consider then many people whose blogs I've been reading since high schoolhouse as well as college. Plus, I was able to connect alongside a lot of my interactive notebook friends as well as portion awesome ideas. And, I met novel people as well as institute novel blogs to read, too.
So, am I thankful that I went to Twitter Math Camp 2014? Yes, yes. A 1000000 times yes! It was the most exciting, exhilarating, useful professional person evolution I've ever experienced. I've got to a greater extent than to write/share/reflect on, but this is a start. TMC was inward July. It's almost Oct . I'm only a few months behind... :)
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